I'm 41 and my wife is 26 she wants kids and I have 2 older children and don't want and cant have kids.?

I find it hard to believe that this is a shocker to you and wasn't "worked out" prior to getting married!Was this not discussed at length before getting married?If so what was the JOINT conclusion and if not it was VERY shortsighted IMO.I could understand if it was thoroughly discussed and the CLEAR understanding was that no new kids and now all of a sudden she decided she wants kids of her own and I would definetly understand your being pissed off..was it discussed prior to be married?